c'est Nouveau

So i am back to the brooding phase ...the diffrence being that I am not the only one doing the brooding ..I get the feeling that the other end broods too.
It's not maths since there is no equation ..everything is based on presumption,intution and hope ...So you stare furtively ,you get stared back furtively and you grin incessantly as if you won some zillion bucks worth of lottery .
Then people around tell you ...take it further.. go ask him out (yeah yeah why not ) ... chat with him etc ...
Why can't we be content with just furtive stares and sighing at names and google searches...
Hah!the go-getter attitude is for others..we? either we are losers...or don't really bother or are too scared of getting hurt and losing dignity .